Every year one of my best friends calls to wish me a happy birthday and then we joke about of the particular joys and pains of the coming year. I’ll always remember the year she called to say:
“HAPPY BIRTHDAY! IT’S THE YEAR OF BACK FAT!”
She’s hilarious. Seriously. Thanks for the heads up, Stacey!
This comes up a lot, and it usually goes something like this:
Lovely, smart, happy woman tries on an intriguing item. It feels…daring.
The fabric feels ‘TOO’: too flimsy, too grippy, too showy!
Same sexy lady’s hands grip her middle, shoulders fall. Item is shoved away.
Negative Self-Talk begins (didn’t we just do this? If this sounds familiar, go straight to this video, and learn how to stop it!)
I think ‘rolls’ and ‘back fat’ are useless ‘reasons’ to stop us from having fun in our clothes. Especially since we don’t have to settled for it. Before you reject the idea of shapewear outright, please understand – it’s not the same as it used to be.
No more sausage casings, no powdering yourself down, or sweating to death. These are new shapes, fabrics, and technologies that can actually feel good.
In this video, I’ll share with you, from a Pro Stylist’s perspective:
How to get your Bod Rockin again
What to look for in shapewear so you can breath, eat, and pee….
The SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT feature to end all compromises and start loving yourself in slim-fitting clothes
Sometimes, we wake up on the jiggly side of the bed and nothing feels good. Oh there’s a million reasons…
You’ve been on holiday
You’re stressed and not eating right
You’ve missed the gym 2 years in a row….
I’m all about loving and appreciating the bodies we live in, just as they are, today. And ya know what? That doesn’t preclude the idea of using the know-how and the tools available to make it feel even better. In fact, I think it supports it brilliantly!
So look, when you don’t feel particularly ‘Toight Life Toiger’, when that loving hug we give to our bods isn’t enough, or even when it’s SO great that it demands that we give it an extra show of hotness and affection, there’s one GO-TO:
THE RIGHT UNDERWEAR
Aside from clothes truly being the wrong fit, nearly ALL of our body woes can be solved and all of our body joys can be heightened with the right shape wear underneath celebrating your shape and supporting your bangin’ bod.
This isn’t about achieving some kind of Oscar worthy 4 pairs of Sausage Casing Shapewear “I’m-never-going-to-eat-or-pee-again” situation.
Watch this video and I’ll explain why. I’ll also give you my…
In my gazillion years of professional Style Coaching, teaching people how to feel great in their skin, and in their clothes; after a lifetime of fitness and yoga teacher training, I’ve learned that Self-Love is a mental muscle we need to build. It takes practice. There are techniques. We gotta work that muscle out!
There’s a ‘workout’ I’ve been doing – and that I teach my clients (in stealth mode). It synchs up our minds + bods and literally change our bodies into the most amazing physical specimens we’ve ever been!
And DAAAYM BABY, WE LOOK GOOOOOD – IN EVERYTHING!
Over the years, I’ve seen countless people look in the mirror and have these reactions:
Reaction 1: At home, trying things on, you glance in the mirror and then, this look. The corners of your lips turn down. It’s like it weighs your head down. After that, maybe a little shoulder slump. Oy! My heart hurts!
Reaction 2 (which I love): We’re shopping together or making new combos. We’re talking, and suddenly, your expression brightens. You stand taller. You’re a bit surprised, and excited about it all!
So I started implementing a little exercise, a workout, if you will, that helps reduce ‘Reaction #1’ and increase ‘Reaction #2’ because after all, isn’t that what we’d all love to have more of?
This exercise isn’t particularly typical for Style Coaches. In fact, it might be considered a little rogue. But that’s ok, I like being a little bit rogue…. I mean, haven’t you seen that silver streak in my hair? This practice is something I draw from my history in yoga. Both mindful, and meditative, it’s easy, and you can do as often as you want to. BUT – you MUST do it at least twice a day, every day. OK?
The thing you have to do is simple. I want you to develop an attitude.
That’s right, an Attitude of Gratitude, Lady! You have to say THANK YOU to your body.
Yep. That’s it. That’s all.
But here’s the tricky part: you have to say thank you with sincerity to all of the wonderful things that your body has done, or will do, for you.
No ‘thanks, but’, no giving the cold shoulder to a body part just because you think it’s not pretty enough. None of that. Zip. Nada Muchacha.
The Attitude of Gratitude is how we change our minds. Getting in touch with the amazing, divine works of art that our bodies really are, and getting our brains lined up with our awesome bods. Because you know what they say:
What we think about, we bring about.
And I want you to bring about your most coveted, loved version of yourself, for yourself, possible. So, here’s your Body Love workout, from me to you. Try it, daily, for the next two weeks and see if you start looking better in the mirror:
Every morning before your feet touch the floor, thank your body for resting and rejuvenating itself so you can make the most of your day.
No matter how little sleep you might have gotten, stretch, say thank you, and smile.
Every evening when you go to bed, tell your body, part by part how much you appreciate what it allowed you to do today. Give some extra love to those parts you normally complain about. Find something good to say about yourself.
Say thank you and smile.
Whenever your exercise, go up or down the stairs, carry heavy children, or heavy groceries, or heavy laundry, thank your body for what it allows you to do.
It may not be perfect, it may not always function with grace or ease, but it always comes through in some good way.
The more you start talking up your bod, the more you’re gonna love dressing up your bod and THAT’S a pleasure I know you’re gonna love.
I’ve been working on Body Love with my clients for a long time. Mainly because so much is out there suggesting that no matter what our beautiful qualities are inside or out, there’s always something to be self-conscious about.
In fact, this trick has worked so well that women actually (subconsciously) use body-complaining as a method of bonding! WHAAAA? Read More
Aaaah the cool breezes of September! Wait! The hot flashes of September?! When Mother Nature plays Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde our mental state can really pay a price. Is it Summer still? Is it Fall?
WHAT SHOULD I WEEEEEAARRR???
Then of course, we’re faced with ‘Oh just wear it all year!’ But some things simply don’t work in one season the way they do in another. A tunic; however, a tunic solves this problem by going from Summer mini-dress to Winter dress with total ease. How? It’s all about accessories and yes – layering. Get out your favourite tunic, and I’ll show you three ways to wear it: for Summer, in Transition, and for Winter. Ready?
In Summer, treat a tunic the same way you treat a mini dress. Pull out the lightest, sparkliest colours for the best Summer spin.
Once in a while you come across it: that PIECE. You have no idea what to do with it.
It’s. Way. Out. There.
But, nonetheless, you MUST HAVE IT! You’ll figure it out later, you say. And then, the days go by. The weeks turn into months, and the seasons into new seasons. It stares at you from the closet as if to say: “I’m heeeeeere! You booouuught me! You spent your hard earned saaalaaaryyyyyy and HA HA! Here I sit. Money in the garbage!”
Of course, you can’t get rid of it! One day you’ll wear it. One day indeed.
The metallic leather skirt I just saw is one such item. It seems SO OFF THE WALL! But really, when you look at it in its parts, it’s a very simple skirt:
1. It’s a pencil shape (classic)
2. It’s a soft nubuck leather (great for cooler months, and comes into style fairly often)
3. It’s in your colour palette.
Why not jump right in? Because it’s metallic. That’s why. It is definitely a statement-maker but it can also be a very useful piece, if you can just get creative about it.
Here’s a Trademark Tip: when you spot a faaaaabulous have-to-have, concentrate on finding its classic traits. Be it shape, colour or fabric, if an ‘outlier’ garment has something classic to its design, you can treat it as a neutral – and turn it into a surprising wardrobe workhorse!
This metallic skirt may seem like an ‘outlier’ but by treating it as a neutral, it turns into a wardrobe workhorse!
Last night’s dreadful storm in Toronto flooded our streets, our homes, and yes, even our closets. When you finally got home safely, was your rain gear still in tact? Better yet: had you even brought a brolly to work yesterday?
Heading back out to work the day after a dreadful storm is the last thing anyone wants to do – especially if your rain gear was destroyed on the commute home the night before! I was lucky enough to beat the clouds home, but as I watched through my windows as the storm rolled in, and saw the news streaming in on my Twitter & Facebook feeds last night, I just couldn’t believe it! And, when the neighbours arrived home, drenched the to bone, I couldn’t help but think: we need a back-to-work wardrobe plan for the rest of the week because this rain isn’t gonna quit!
Don’t let torrential downpours rain on your style parade. Your style is weather-proof! Here are two new favourite combinations. One romantic, feminine, and trendy, the other edgy, urban, and avant. Which do you like best?